Many say that forgiving is easy to say but hard to do. That’s for those who don’t know how. Here are the steps:
Step 1: Awareness.
To help this process, please make a list, if necessary, write it down. Example:
a. What’s the problem?
b. Who is the person? One, two, or more?
c. What do you feel? Angry, sad, irritated, annoyed, hopeless, hate or others.
Step 2: Acceptance.
All things written in the first step, accepted them all, include what is felt and how that feeling arises.
Step 3: Understanding.
Boarden your heart and mind. Enjoy this process of understanding, do not need to point and blaming others and circumstances, concentrate on yourself.
Step 4: Forgive.
Now, you are ready to forgive. Oftenly, there is a feeling of rejection from within, here are the trick to hypnotize yourself:
a. At the time before going to bed at night, pray as usual.
b. At the end of the prayer, whisper to yourself, for example: I forgive A, B, C for all your mistakes to me in the past, thank you for being present in my life, and I love you.
Step 5: Letting it go
a. Say thank you: thank you for being present in your life, thank you for teaching you to grow and mature, thank you for teaching to be strong.
b. Allow all these burdens to go.
c. Do it with a smile on the face and heart.
Some tips:
- Do it every night before going to bed.
- Repeat steps 1 to 5, if you don’t have time, at least the most important thing is to do step 4.
- Do it every day for the maximum results.
- Do it at least 21 days to firm yourself and becoming a behavior.
- After 21 days, ask yourself, have I forgiven A, B, and C? Check what you feel, do you still feel hate, anger, hopeles and or others? If so, continue practicing every night, for how long?
I still do it every day up to this day, because we are everyday in contact with other people, i.e : at home, at the market, on the streets, at the office, there may be one or two frictions that cause us to feel irritated, annoyed, or something else. So before you sleep is the right time to forgive everything.
